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Wednesday, April 13, 2011

How Do You Propose I Propose?

Shannon sketching out his one-of-a-kind proposal
 for girlfriend, Jessica. Love this!
Congratulations! You have found the woman of your dreams. She is smart, funny, beautiful, compassionate and always laughs at your jokes…including the ones that aren’t really funny.  Now, you want to ask her the one question that will change both of your lives forever.   But how do you do it? What are the rules? Where do you find help? What will guarantee that she always treasures the moment?
The good news is that many have traveled the road you are now on and lived to tell about it.  Some have even become the romantic heroes of our time. The best news of all is that the answers to what you should do, how you should do it and where it should happen, are all attainable if you do one thing…pay attention to your woman.
Special occasion and gift giving requirements are simple for most women.  We want something that shows you pay attention to us.  For example, if your lady eyes a particular scarf every time you go through the Macy*s, but doesn’t get it for herself, you buy it (points double for noticing what we haven’t verbalized).  If she mentions wanting to try Ecuadorian cuisine, find a restaurant that has a great reputation and take her there.  If she has a lot going on at work and you notice how tense she is, either hire a masseuse or give her a massage yourself, in a totally uninterrupted and quiet space.  Then, leave her alone to enjoy the relaxed state for an hour or so.  The more you pay attention, the more clues you can gather to earn the Most-Amazing-Boyfriend-Ever Award.   Jotting down notes is a great idea if your memory is not the best. 
Now, if you are a naturally creative guy, putting together a proposal may not seem daunting to you.  For those who need a week’s notice to pick out a card, here are some tips to help you along:


  1. Consider Hiring a Professional – Event and Wedding Planners are in the business of putting together one-of-a-kind occasions.  They have access to and relationships with all kinds of venues and artisans who share their passion for the spectacular. You wouldn’t rely on your knowledge alone to purchase a house, so hiring an agent makes sense, right?  The right event planner will help you put your ideas into a plan, point you in the direction of quality vendors and help you execute everything with ease.  You get the credit and keep the time that allows you to enjoy the moment
  2. Remember Less is Usually More – As cliché as it sounds, the little things really do matter.  Remembering your “firsts”…first date place, first movie together, first time you told her you love her is a great theme to plan your proposal around.  Finishing with the first time she becomes your fiancée is a guaranteed hit, especially if you remember some firsts she may not.  Keep in mind, expense is no substitute for sincerity and make sure your facts are straight on the firsts
  3. Give Yourself Time to Plan – If you tend to procrastinate over things that cause you anxiety, I refer you back to point 1.  Even spontaneity requires some planning.  Make sure you have enough time to think about and then execute all that you want to happen before, during and after the proposal.  A well executed plan requires time.  Lack of time will create stress and anxiety
  4. Remember It’s Your Moment Too – She will adore you for all of the effort you put into making her “The One”.  She will connect with you in a completely new way when your proposal sets the tone for the marriage/partnership you are offering.  Capture the moment by hiring a photographer/videographer/cinematographer or enlisting a friend with a great eye.  It might not be a bad idea to have them start before you get to the proposal so she can later see how much you put into making it all happen (major bonus points for this one)
Now that you have some direction, get moving.  Still need some inspiration?  Here are some of our favorites to help you out:
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